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New year

New year brings new hope, new aspirations and new found joy. It gives reason to smile like every other celebrated occasion. On same occasion I remember my mom saying " the way you behave on first day will be reflected in whole year".

Guess..what I have done, O'buddy I slept till 2pm and relished every moment of peace in chilling winter in my bed covered with rajai & blanket. No words can define this comfort in dilli ki shardi. Took breakfast at 3.30pm but before that I took bath, ofcourse I want to be clean & look better everyday. Already I have disadvantage of being dark complexion and my wandering from east to west India, starting from Northern part caused my ascent not to be of typical northern Indian, and I get perplexed in fusion of Identity. Yesss...people on first interaction are always sure of their guess that either I belong to Tamil nadu, kannada , telugu etc. and then I have to broke their heart that I am from Lucknow.

"Really" is obvious reaction on their face with long pause & ample exclaimation from my esteemed friends who had bet on my identity with someone who knew me earlier. Okk..Enough reasons for taking bath..Someday, I may able to demystify my identity to others by taking regular bath!!

A good breakfast or lunch means good sleep and I had till 6 and then some chai wai some namkeen along with good gossip with my friends. The clock ticked 9 and my stomach asked for some things to go inside. No one was in mood of Full Food ( If you are from north India, it means rice, dal, chapati , sabzi and few add ons like pickle, sweet dish etc.) and then we had junks, crux and coffee. Well I thought of having some healthy toppings to my body on new year and it came in the form of "a cup full of horlicks milk" courtesy my dear friend ( I can't name else all in hostel will take advantage of his kindness) who took pain to make Jan 1, 2010 to be supplemented by nutrition. Finally Some movies and another day night is gone, be it 1st day of new year.

If mom's saying is true then surely I will enjoy luxurious life with surprised package and if not then this was best way to bring new year.

wo to suna hi hain naa, kal kisne dekha hain, jeelo aaj jee bhar k, agli subah kisne dekha hai.

Just wait,I forget to tell about my new year resolutions (you are right, New resolutions is first mandatory thing which comes to mind for living new year), actually for me it remains same just got recharged with new packages to make NEW. Sorry my dear friends, I can't divulge it..its secret of my success and your happiness. Once it is out, both things will be lost and I don't want to lose either. Just one hint, Belief & faith is my resolutions' core. Have a rocking year ahead. Every second is yours, live full but don't forget to enjoy the moments. These special moments make life special!!!

Young Doc's feeling: A tribute

I am a doctor who is soon going to be 25. I am proud of myself of achieving what I have done, the only problem is I am not there fully yet. Medical is long and a strenous course involving hours and hours of studying each day. MBBS being only graduate degree which doesn't hold much in this profession. PG or specialisation becomes prime requirement for earning even a decent living. To add to our woes, getting into PG with all reservations & making hellish of effort is not easy job. Every day of preparation, every moment of cramming, every second of reading and continuing our intern or resident work is too exhausting and then sitting at home or in hostel room just preparing for entrance becomes daunting when people of your age around you are getting married, having babies, taking vacation and being promoted. And here you are barely graduate & broken, fixed in studies. People assume you have no right to live because you are doctor, infact sometime you also feel that your life is webbed. You are thrashed many a times in hospital for no fault of your. Losing a patient hurts a doctor as much as relative but just we are not god and sometimes things are beyond control is not criteria to criticize us.

We give ten years (at least) of our life to study just surviving on meager stipend. Many a time resident are harassed for getting married. We end up becoming parent at an age which is medically unfit ( most of us get in age of 26 to 32). We are accused of being bookworm (like we have chosen), selfish, money minded (someone explain that to me) and of course negligent!! Missing family functions is something not we like to do but we get to hear is. you chose that profession. Yes, We did, and we are going for greater height. But we are human too. We would like to live life, enjoy life and being on same platform as you are. Give us break!!

Courtesy:A doc's feeling

My doctor is nice; every time I see, I'm ashamed of what I think of doctors in general.

Lust of rank

Pink Floyd’s “we don’t need no education, we don’t need no thought control; no dark sarcasm in the classroom; teachers leave us kid alone”

"you have to get 1st rank" mom yelled at her son who barely managed to keep his books in bag. No word came out of his mouth. He felt like there is no life beyond 1st rank. Mom was so angry because she wanted his best. Lot of crosswords were impacting his brains.

He studied hard, toiled day and night. Even mom worked harder than him. Mom said revision is key to being best in studies. He took all tolls, awake at 5am ( 6 yr old child...gosshhh..i will not able to manage even I have to run for life), carried more weight than roadside labor and learned, crammed the answers. Finally on exam day, he was anxious more than the patient who was running for life in OT and filled with fear which is comparable to relatives who were standing outside for news of successful operations. Somehow god gave courage to hold his nerve, remembered the face of Mom and wrote exams. Every exam day was superlative of previous day. Finally those were over. My hero tried to enjoy life but expectations, fear, scolding & what,if prompted him to somehow entangled in results.

Day of result: He was first one to get awake in home, took bath, prayed heartedly to god as if this is last chance. He tried to cry but could not able to as wanted to hide his fear of result in front of family & to self. Contrary Mom's face was compassionate while but he was scared of any untoward outcomes and couldn't able to share his feelings to Mom.....

"All d best, son"

"thank, you" was meek reply!!!

Ohh god, help this poor child. I don't want CEO post, make one demotion to me but give him first rank else his life aspirations will end here. Finally, Great news, nothing untoward incident happened, expectedly he got first rank. He was filled with joy, tears rolled, voice stammered, leg was not in tandem and heart was throbbing. His adrenalin said he had achieved the world. The yellow report was firmly secured in little hand. He ran like lamb to reach home and saw mom waiting for him at door. Our little child gave his report card and held head high for completing the task assigned by mom. Mom saw the report, and first time smiled at him and said good work beta, now you have to maintain it. From that moment, he lost the life and got the rank. His life became book. He lived books, juggled numbers & plated with ranks but somehow missed the life.

The parent shadow in this guy thought that he will not allow such thing to happen to his offspring. Today at the age of 30, he got blessed with child. The rank was the first thing came to his mind. He wanted to demolish it from new generation in his family, and again we thought things will change!!

But the legacy continued: courtesy "greed of being father of ranker". Another creativity & innocence was lost!!

Shanti Sena

This all women sena (army) raised in the remote area of Bundelkhand region is fighting for the rights and dignity of the rural women who bore the brunt of drought and poverty. The women majority of them housewives and semi literate follow the Gandhian path of satyagrah to get their demands fulfilled, no doubt they have named their organization- Mahila Shanti Sena (MSS). In grip of drought for seven years this region has witnessed large migration. Men have left the villages in search of petty jobs to the far away cities including Mumbai, Indore, Surat and Delhi leaving behind women, old and children. The women who used to remain within the fore wall of the house suddenly found themselves at the center stage with the responsibility to run the family and to take care of the dependents- old as well as children. Challenge was not only from within but also from outside, as the landlords and contractors found them an easy target. As the incidents of sexual harassment as well as exploitation of the women increased the women decided to form an organization to fight jointly against the atrocities. The movement that started in Godaya Kala village located around 80 km east of Chitrakoot is spreading fast as more and more women are joining the sena. The head of Mahila Shanti Sena, Savitri Devi (50 years) told HT that the foundation of the sena was laid by nine women in January 2009. "Now the branch of sena is working in 50 villages and over 500 women have joined the rank. There was no assistance from the government or the administration to the women whose husband is working as migrant labourers", she said. "When it came to our survival the Bundeli women decided to pick up the cudgel and fight for their rights and honor. The lone women are vulnerable Savitri said and added on December 14 finding a woman alone in Kol Majra village some miscreants entered in the house forcibly and raped her. Instead of taking action against the culprits the police protected them and terrorised the victim. The volunteers of the Mahila Shaniti Sena gheraoed the police station and organised dharna. The senior police officers assured us that culprit would be taken into custody Savitri said and added since the cases of sexual harassment of women had increased the MSS have urged the women to move in groups.

Now the MSS is also focusing on the self-employment and health issues. The pregnant women are taken to the hospital for regular checkup and volunteers are present during delivery.

Source:HT

Unequals in Equal

Imagine a woman who is while filling the form has to fill the option “wife of” but now thanks to supreme court judgment now they can use “daughter of” so far privileged to only male gender to reveal their identity as “son of”. Well, things are going smooth, some day we will be able to choose our identity on mother’s name who pained all effort to bring us in this world which is so far privileged to father’s ( male again ofcourse). I am not against father lover or husband lover but I think everybody has right to reveal their identity as they way they want.

Don’t you think women are securely confined to men’s world whether at office or in college or in school. Their every deed is monitored as suspicion whether they laugh with colleague or they are busy in work or they chat. All rules and decorum they have to comply for and men’s are the regulator and appraiser of their behavior. Ever wondered why road under construction site is written as “Men at work, drive slow”, never mind the fact that women are also slogging out their sweat. Managers output is measured in man-hours or man-day, even though there are lot of women churning their efforts. Now one may argue that these are generalized rules written are man-made only but really its tool to reinforce the word that after all its man’s world!!!!

Although sexism is to stay here and it started the day world started but still there are questions which need to be answered. Apology to all, but in moral science we read god as he, not she or why child is the father of man??? I didn’t understood till now whether child is man or woman but the phrase stuffed my mind that every superiority is reserved for man. Later I also got familiar with word like ‘craftsmanship‘ or ‘sportsmanship’ to highlight the superior species, we, the man. Later realized that earlier these are exclusive words meant for men, and keeping women in shed of their chauvinism. And we talk “Everyone is equal”

Well when we in sighted Bollywood or our very popular sport cricket, it is again gender bigotry which comes into play and they are also leader in this. Our women’s cricket team reached to semifinals of T20 world cup and I am sure rarely peole knew but other side lost in first round has everybody on tips. There is always hero in movies; angry young man, a fighter but women a supporter to such ‘society transforming man’ or abla naari or @@##$$$***

Lot of have been said to women and atrocities done to them. They have to rise and do for themselves and we men have to understand its equality that has to prevail. Just by sending our daughter, Sister et al to make them literate by imparting education will not do some good. The mere passing of women bill or giving jobs will not change much. We have to understand they work as hard as we do then why they get less pay or why we have perception they got job or admission because they have fairer sex advantage rather than they are as capable as we are. We have to change our mind alongwith rules which we have changed earlier, then we can see the world which our ancestors said very early.

“yatra naaryastu pujyante, ramnte tatra devta” which means literally that where she is respected god always reside in form of prosperity.

But one thing shouldn’t get unnoticed: "The only consolation to women’s world is we have phrase ‘mother of all invention, is after all mother”

Your planet needs you, unite to combat climate change

Climate change has become an issue right across the world and many people may be wondering why this is happening and want know the reasons. It is at this point in time that each and every individual has to play a vital role in resuscitating our God given environment that is deteriorating day by day. Suddenly, climate change has been an issue on the agenda and action has to be taken.
Trees are heat stressed and the growing seasons are changing for crops in different countries. It is with this experience of climate change that will keep us working to fight climate change.. Let’s glance at the some statistics which enlighten the effect of climate change if we didn’t wake up to take actions: 

Ø      If no action is taken to reduce emissions the level of greenhouse gases in the atmosphere could be double those experienced in pre-industrial times by 2035.The risks of the worst impacts of climate change can be substantially reduced if greenhouse gas levels in the atmosphere are stabilized at current levels

Ø      At least 279 species of plants and animals are already responding to global warming by moving closer to the poles. 

Ø      Although total annual emissions from developing countries are expected to eventually exceed those of developed countries their per capita emissions will remain much lower.

Solutions at all levels

Reducing emissions-The primary cause of climate change is increased levels of greenhouse gases in the atmosphere. The main greenhouse gas is carbon dioxide which is produced by the burning of fossil fuels such as coal, oil and natural gas to produce energy. These fuels are used to produce electricity and for transport around the world. There are many ways in which greenhouse gas levels can be reduced:

Ø      Reduce your impact at home and work by replacing light bulbs with new energy efficient bulbs, unplug electronic devices when not in use and recycle where possible.

Ø      Walk, cycle and use public transport where possible to reduce carbon dioxide emissions. We will save one pound of carbon dioxide for every mile we do not drive

Ø      Switch to green power: Energy generated by clean renewable sources.

Ø      Replacing one regular light bulb with a compact fluorescent light bulb will save 150 pounds of carbon dioxide a year.

Ø      Keeping you tires inflated properly can improve gas mileage by more than 3%. Every gallon of gasoline saved keeps 20 pounds of Carbon dioxide out of atmosphere.

Ø      Moving your thermostat just 2 degrees in winter and up 2 degrees in summer, we can save about 2000 pounds of CO₂ a year just with simple adjustment.

Ø      A single tree plantation will absorb one ton of CO₂ over its lifetime

Ø      Simply turning off your television, DVD player, Stereo and computer when you are not using them will save thousands of pounds of carbon dioxide a year. 

All sectors of society have to play a part in activities that produce greenhouse gases. Solutions must therefore involve individuals, communities, businesses and governments, and action must take place at the local, national and international level. 

Governments can:Introduce policies and legislation that:

Ø      Support alternative energy sources such as wind and solar.

Ø      Promote energy efficiency and conservation by businesses and households.

Ø      Establish carbon trading schemes. 

Businesses can:

Ø      Introduce technologies and techniques to cut their operational energy use.

Ø      Improve the energy efficiency of products they produce such as electrical appliances and vehicles.

Ø      Become carbon neutral by offsetting their emissions.

Ø      Save money by reducing their energy use. 

Individuals can:

Simple changes in your energy consumption such as turning lights off, and using your car less can reduce your impact 

Community Action

Action at the community level not only has the potential to minimize and deal with the effects of climate change directly, it also has the power to influence and bring about change in other sectors such as business and government. 

Ø      Calculate your individual/family/community carbon dioxide emissions, set a reduction target and make a plan of action to achieve it.

Ø      Encourage government and politicians (local, state and national) to introduce emission reduction targets, and policies that encourage renewable energy. The UNFCCC (2007) has recommended that industrialized countries need to reduce their emissions by 60-80% by 2050.

Ø      Encourage your local government to join Cities for Climate Protection.

Ø      Protect trees and forests. Deforestation and land use change accounts for as much as 25% of global greenhouse gas emissions.

Ø      Organize a tree planting program Avoid excess packaging. Reducing waste will help cut emissions.

Ø      Encourage schools to include climate change content in the curriculum.

Ø      Explore alternative energies such as solar cookers in areas affected by drought, water may be scarce. Look at ways to be more water efficient and consider additional water storage

Ø      Talk to your teacher or employer about organizing a walk to work/school day.

Ø      Agricultural biodiversity provides resistance to changing conditions. Maintaining diverse seed supplies and being flexible in the types of crops that can be grown are key adaptation strategies.

Ø      Raise awareness in your community – use a local hall or town square to establish a central information point, erect public notice boards, and organize dances, plays or poster competitions. Keep messages simple for maximum effect.

Ø      Approach local media such as radio to include one-off and/or ongoing segments on climate change.

Ø      Remember to share your successes as widely as possible - notify media, CUW and other local, national and international organizations. 

With our innovative minds and refreshing ideas, I believe all can make a difference and that climate change will not just take place while we watch. We have to do all that we can from educating perpetrators of these effects to implementation of activities on the ground. What is needed is a combination of strenuous and persistent citizen movements and some clear and unambiguous examples of political leadership. 

      "Thank God men cannot fly, and lay waste the sky as well as the earth.
There is a sufficiency in the world for man's need but not for man's greed
There's so much pollution in the air now that if it weren't for our lungs there'd be no place to put it all.
Don't blow it - good planets are hard to find!!"