What’s in the name…errr…surname…

Juliet:
"What's in a name? That which we call a rose
By any other name would smell as sweet."

 

You must be wondering why I have chosen such thing to write when Shakespeare already talked about its insignificance…….actually our very own Munna Bhai a.k.a Sanjay Dutt…is inspiration behind such value addition….I mean sequel to Shakespeare Play… 

He already explained name has no role in love and but I am forced to ponder why he didn’t thought about surname also. I got instant answer, he didn’t faced Sanju baba naaa…. Sanjay Dutt is someone who uses his father’s surname and has problem if his sister does…“Girls must assume their new surname and all the responsibilities that come with it” that’s what Munna Bhai specifically said recently…..

How does it look like Hema Deol, Moon Moon Verma or Shabana Akhtar? Now revert Malini to Hema, Maiden name to Moon Moon , Azmi to sabana and things fall back into place. Marriage is a coming of together of equals. It’s not like buying a cow and then branding it with a iron rod just to show your ownership over it or branding the product with you name esp. to show you are more branded. Fairer sex are also independent people and they have their own identities and of-course history. 

If you go down to history the trend of assuming men’s last name is more in North rather than South India. In fact not only Surname, wife is given new name also in new family as a ritual for their new life which is not only ridiculous but also playing with feeling that now go hell with your previous life, we don’t care what your earlier life, we are concerned only to life after this new name…real mockery of feeling…

 

When columnist Swaminathan decided to marry, he went all the way by taking on his wife’s name as his middle name, as part of equal ownership. Now what sanjay and likes of his will say that Swami should assume all responsibility of Wife’s family!!!!Well I am not citing examples like this to tell that we need to do things like this to show our solidarity but thing is that all have equal right to don with their name or surname what they want to. Any name is not going to decide any responsibility or abstaining of any role related to it. It’s a woman’s right to decide her surname and fortunately, both partner’s are equal before the constitution. A change of surname also calls for mountain of paperwork, particularly now when woman marry after they’re settled in their career or having setup business…

 

The our very own male dominated society always want woman not to excel and all these were excised to make them feel they are not at par and they have no identity of own…now when Priya Dutt questioned integrity of her brother, how can brother tolerate and so he replied in true male way thinking he is supreme. Let people like sanjay should understand that everybody has right to take name. After marriage they can retain any name, they wished for…I mean surname also!!!!!!!! So next time when you people come across Aishwarya Rai Bachhan, Priyanka Gandhi Vadra, Madhuri Dixit or Parle’s Shauna chauhan, remember it’s all about personal choice as well as hard-won-earned personal identity and they are not going to change to please some or more whatever Male’s who can’t digest they have better say then males…

 

Now Juliet must be saying

"What's in a *name? That which we call a rose
By any other name would smell as sweet but why should it change"

 

* name also include surname